Lilli here.. back with points three and four, based on the things I’ve learnt and are learning as I experience everyday life in my current state of joblessness, slight confusion and generally feeling like a blog of goo.
Last time I talked about how Life is just a process; we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves nor each other if we haven’t yet figured out what direction we want to take for everybody peaks at different times.
I also brought in the somewhat touchy subject of social media. Don’t let what you see define you nor the person you aim to be; aim for authenticity.
Number 3: Stop Complaining!
I swear If my boyfriend had a dollar for every time I opened my mouth to complain and whine about how my life is sooo horrible and people suck and my phone is broken (it actually is) and blah blah blah, I think he would have been on his way to becoming a millionaire.
Complaining is nice; it makes us feel good after venting and going on a rant and letting it all out.
After complaining, then what? What are you going to do about it?
Yes I am jobless, I am broke, and people suck (not my wonderful readers), yes my almost new phone is broken and it’s going to cost me a lot of money to get it fixed…
What I am trying to say here is: after you whine and list a million reasons why your life isn’t going anywhere; don’t just sit there, do something about it!
And I am not only talking about this current situation myself and some of you out there are in, no. I am talking about all of the problems and situations you face that you find yourself complaining about; even the things you cannot change (don’t go too deep on this one and start thinking cancer or lost limbs).
Maya Angelou once said if you do not like something, change it or change your attitude.
I am jobless yes but I refuse to sit here and not try to remedy this situation. I apply for jobs; check my email every day for job opportunities.
I am not sure what I am supposed to be doing or where I am supposed to go in life; okay great! Here I am, talking to my internet friends using this blog. I am not famous yet neither am I the best writer, but I am very happy doing this for it keeps me active, motivated and inspired as I wait for the job I know I am going to get.
You cannot sit there complaining about something and not try to change it. And if you do not want to change it, change your attitude and be positive since you won’t do anything anyway.
It is hard, I admit but it must be done.
Number 4: Love Yourself, Appreciate your Now!
Amidst the misery, doom and gloom that is somewhat my life these days, I have realized just how important self-love and gratitude are.
I did not really like myself.
I felt that people like me are the kind that attract the misery,doom and gloom like a magnet. My job made me feel like a ‘somebody’ so imagine how I felt when that was taken away from me.
I felt like a blob of goo.
I still do…sometimes …especially when that darn PMS hits.
Lately, I’ve realized that with that kind of mindset, no matter how successful I may become, I’d never really go anywhere.
Never really have a voice.
Always fade into the background.
When you feel unimportant, lost, confused, ugly, unattractive, talentless, hopeless and worst of all, useless.
We were created whole and pure; powerful and not lacking anything. Do not take that away from yourself by feeding your mind with negativity.
Learn to love yourself at your best and your worst.
As for Appreciating your now…
Often times we find ourselves coveting someone else’s life thinking that it is better than ours.
Perhaps it could be.
However, that does not make us less of a human being.
We are all running different races towards different goals and destinations.
We may not even know what those goals and destinations are but that is A-Okay. Appreciate what you have now for it is part of your story.
Besides, it could be worse… I mean look at the world without your rose tinted glasses and you will definitely realize you kind of have it much, much better.
I know I do.
Are you on your own journey? What hurdles are you facing and how are you dealing with them? Share your stories by leaving me a comment in the comment section.
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P.S Never ever ever stop trying; it’s a bad season, not a bad life.